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(Pedagogy) Philosophy and Nonsense      
Thoughts about writing, education, and experience                                  Presented by Forrest D. Poston

The first goal of teaching is to strengthen, deepen and refine our intrinsic love of learning. All other goals and all methods must stem from that idea. Any that do not support that goal must at least be questioned and adjusted, if not eliminated. Otherwise, we are not teaching but training.

Stories, and that has made all the differenc.

Writing and Education

Autobiography Challenge

Considering Conclusions

Considering Introductions

Four Meanings of Life

Godot and the Great Pumpkin

A Major is More Minor Than
You Think

The Poetry Process (A look at 4 versions of a poem.)

Thoughts About Picking a Major

Quick Points About Education

Quick Points About Writing

Reading Poetry and Cloud Watching

Revising Revision

Reviving Experience

Reviving Symbolism

Using an Audience


What Makes a Story True?

What's the Subject of This Class? (Being revised.)

Why Write?

Writing and Einstein (The Difference Between Information and Meaning)

Writing and the Goldilocks Dilemma

Links to Other Sites
Beyond the Genes, We Inherit Dreams     by Forrest D. Poston

   Born eight years apart, my brother and I knew Dad differently, the same father but a different man in a different time.  Greg knew the younger days, and though the first seven years were in the coal camps, they were largely days of bright expectations.  And Greg was a more traditional teenager with a more traditional life that included a lot of time away from the house after a certain age.

We both inherited a great deal, not all of which seems to be genetics.  Oh, we have the nose, though Greg’s is smaller than Dad’s was and mine is smaller than Greg’s.  It’s still distinctly a family trait.  And we can’t resist telling stories, even if we talk much but reveal little.  That part we seem to have breathed in as we grew.

But those eight years separated me in ways I only slowly understand.  Showing me a different father, deeper in some ways, perhaps, often sadder, and hiding so much else.  It’s as if i was always a little late in learning, too slow in saying.  I was late in learning that he could play music by ear, and by the time I heard him play his harmonica, coal mines, crawl spaces, and Camels had taken his breath.

He told me some stories, revealed a piece here and there.  I knew that he dropped out of school after 8th grade.  He told me that it was because he was bored, which was probably true.  He didn’t mention that he already had more siblings and half-siblings than one person could feed in a coal camp.  He went to work in the mines, which also began his determination that his own kids wouldn’t grow up in the coal fields. 

He drove a coal truck, a taxi, a newspaper route, working more jobs than I ever knew about, losing more of them than he would tell, and for reasons I would come to suspect  and understand.  It wasn’t so much that he couldn’t live by other people’s rules.  He just couldn’t live on other people’s time.

And the family moved from the coal fields, several times.  But a week before I was born, the move took hold.  Coal dust is likely in my blood but never in my lungs.  Somehow I grew up with different expectations.  We were in a growing town where a large, new company helped build new schools and brought in new people, not just laborers and merchants but executives.  We may have lived in the working class part of town, but there was management in the air.

Greg finished high school and went on to study electronics, and his hands, like Dad’s hands, seemed able to do anything.  I went to college and only later learned to wield a shovel well and hammer a nail more often than my finger.  Dad was proud when despite assorted detours I became the first in known family history to graduate from college, but we were divided more than ever.  We could still talk about the Cleveland Browns and the Cincinnati Reds, and I had even learned to do it without arguing. 

  And I worked with him in his plumbing and setting monuments.  By the time I was 21, he told me I did a good job at something, and eventually he even said that I was like an old engine, I worked pretty well once I got started.  But I eventually came to realize that he thought that I might look down on him, or not exactly that but not proud.  He was the main reason for what I had become, but what I had become seemed different, almost foreign.

He wasn’t a tv Dad.  He didn’t teach me how to fish, and the one time he gave in to my begging to toss a football for a while, his bursitis caused him to suffer for days, even if I didn’t find out for years.  He was one of the most frustrating men to ever walk the earth.  He delighted in arguing for its own sake, and his words were often prejudiced, though his actions never were.  But I never looked down on him, would never accept any offer for a chance to go back and change fathers, no matter who might be offered.

Still, some of the most important things I learned about him came late and from other sources.  Not long before his health forced him to retire, I was helping with some labor at the local publishing company when the owner came by to chat.  That was when I heard the story of the company growing too fast and taking on more work than its equipment could handle.  That’s when I heard how Dad took that 8th grade education, designed, built, and installed a new ink-supply system from standard plumbing parts.....and that after two years that system had yet to require any repairs.

But the stories with the real revelations came even later, while I stood beside his casket at the viewing and talked with Dad’s friends that I hadn’t seen since childhood.  Abe, the barber who cut my hair for my first 7 years told me that Dad would spend 20 minutes fixing a faucet and 4 hours sitting at the kitchen table drinking coffee and telling stories.  That’s when some things fell into place.

He couldn’t live on other people’s time.  That’s why he eventually, absolutely had to work for himself.  We never went without what we needed, but we were never going to have a pile of money in the bank.  I don’t know if he needed the time to tell the stories or if the stories were just a way to control his time, but it had to be that way because he was that way.  He wouldn’t rebel or try to change the world, but he needed that bit of control.

And then the family doctor told me the story that told what I’d never imagined, another side of a story I thought I knew.

When I was seven, my mother died of a brain tumor that had been mis-diagnosed at the nearest hospital.  Dad suspected the mis-diagnosis, but this was mid 1960s rural West Virginia.  Hospital choices were few, roads narrow and slow, and time and money both limited. 

So every morning the family doctor arrived at his office to find Dad waiting on the steps, going in each day to read the medical books until he had to go to work, back when he still worked for someone else.  And it was Dad, with his 8th grade education, who made the correct diagnosis and who knew as well the prognosis.  His hands could do anything from drawing to making any hand tool an artist’s tool, and his brain could do things education couldn’t give, but this was something neither hands nor head could fix.  This was beyond his control.

  In all the years after, he only told me one story about my mother, the story about the first time they met when he gave her and another girl a lift.  And he told me that it was then that he told himself that was the girl he was going to marry.  When I asked him if the story was true, he only said, “I did, didn’t I?”  I think now that the story was true, and that making that diagnosis killed the father that Greg grew up with, changing him into the father I grew up with.

The last time I saw him, he was in the hospital, as he had been many times in the recent years, but he was doing better.  I had just gotten my Masters diploma and had been teaching as a graduate assistant for a few years, so I got to show him the diploma for his birthday, knowing that he was proud and happy to know that I had a career in mind, happy that he no longer had to worry about his somewhat different son.

The truth, however, is that I’m not so different, or at least I hope that I’m not.  I think that in more ways I am what he might have been if he had been born with a shot at the same education, even if part of me believes he would have done much more with it.  But his blood and spirit are in me as I tell stories and try to live on my time.

I’m glad that I got to show him that diploma, glad to know that he was proud, but as I showed it to him, I also knew that I should tell him how proud I had always been of him, how I could never be anything but proud that he was my father.  I knew that I should say that and so much more, but neither storyteller said a word.  He was doing better, and we’d have time.  A few days later, he died.

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Being Like Children

The Blessing and the Blues

The Cat With a Bucket List

David and the Revelation

The Dawn, the Dark, and the Horse I Didn't Ride In On (an odd, meandering, semi-romantic story)

Ghost Dancer in the Twilight Zone

The Hair Connection and the Nature of Choices

The Mug, the Magic, and the Mistake

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The Poetry Process

Writing by Current or Former Students

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Scribbles and Bits

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